THE TWELVE STEPS
(adapted from Alcoholics Anonymous)
| 1. | We admitted we were powerless over our partners and relationships–that our lives had become unmanageable. |
| 2. | Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us and our relationships to sanity. |
| 3. | Made a decision to turn our will, our lives, and our relationships over to the care of God as we understood God. |
| 4. | Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves as partners and of our relationships. |
| 5. | Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being or couple the exact nature of our wrongs. |
| 6. | Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. |
| 7. | Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. |
| 8. | Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. |
| 9. | Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. |
| 10. | Continued to take inventory of ourselves as partners and of our relationships, and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. |
| 11. | Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God , praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out. |
| 12. | Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to couples in recovery, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. |